• Marriage is a Fight

    If you gather a room full of married people you will soon find out that marriage is not easy. Not ONE person will say it is. Why is it so tough to keep a marriage healthy? “The two shall become one flesh” Ephesians 5:31. It’s called a mystery. You have two individuals with different needs, opinions, thoughts, pasts and influences. It’s not a beautiful merge then you float through life on a cloud of love. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “ All you need is love”. Love is a powerful thing but it’s not a fluffy emotion. It’s a laying down of ones needs and elevating others. That doesn’t sound like love but torture to some of us. Read 1 Corinthians 13. It’s about denying your selfishness. It’s about doing the unnatural thing. Selfishness is natural. Love is not.

    The commitment of marriage is a big deal. For some of you, you had no idea what you were getting into and others, quite frankly just thought it would be different. Discontentment will probably come. Crisis will probably happen. What do you do and how do you handle it when it does come? STAY! STAY! STAY! Don’t give up! FIGHT! FIGHT! You will probably have more moments fighting for your marriage than basking in the goodness of it. It is when you fight for it that you will enjoy the spoils of it. There is nothing like a whole marriage. A marriage that is unified is an example of Christ and the church. This is why it is so attractive to those watching. The fulfillment of a healthy marriage is a treasure. Nobody said perfect, only healthy. Do you fight for your marriage? If the answer is no, you are probably on the road to “done”. It’s worth fighting for and not giving up in the tough season. You may ask yourself if it is even worth your effort. The answer is YES. You will be glad you did. I’m a product of a fight. My parents fought, I fought and I will teach my kids to fight. Not verbally scream at each other but dig your heels in the ground and stand. Fight for the commitment you made. Don’t let the seasons dictate your future. Let God’s word dictate your future.

    Ephesians 6:10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

    STAND! After you’ve done that keep STANDING! Don’t give up. You will be glad you fought. I believe in you! YOU CAN DO THIS!

    with love,

    Ashley